It’s Time For “The Talk”

It’s that time of year again, so bringing back a post from last year.

We are fully into November now and we are coming up on Christmas quicker than you can say “Buddy the Elf, what’s your favorite color?”

If you are one of those families that buys for everyone, why don’t you approach the family this year and talk about maybe not buying for every.single.person.  You could suggest that you draw names, or even set age limits on when the 4 nieces, now 23 or older, no longer need to get $20 gifts.

The sex talk might be easier than this talk for some of you, but if you budget needs this break it might be worth it.  Every year we say “Christmas is not about the gifts,”  but I guarantee there are still people giving because they have too.

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  1. We did this last year. With the economy like it is, it is a great time to approach family about cutting back since most people are looking a little harder at their expenses anyway. It was so nice to have all that extra time to spend enjoying the holiday season and not running all over the place to spend money on gifts nobody really wanted in the first place.

  2. Amy, glad you were able to do this!!! Probably a huge weight off your shoulders.

  3. I love Buddy the Elf! The “What’s your favorite color?” line is one of my favorite quotes from the movie, along with, “He’s an angry elf.”

    For Christmas, we’ll buy the boys a few gifts and, of course they’ll receive some from Grandma and Grandpa. We try to put more importance, though, on the holiday being about Jesus rather than gifts. As a family, we’ll be participating again in Advent Conspiracy ( through our church and putting more money towards helping people in need, like giving money to build water wells in 3rd world countries ( There’s so many worthy organizations and ministries to give to.

  4. There are probably so many families that would be relieved if someone were to suggest this. Sometimes it just takes one brave soul to be the first to approach the idea of cutting back or cutting out gifts altogether. Love your blog.


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